I think most of us have heard the idea that the five people you spend the most time with will determine your level of success in life. This quote by Jim Rohn, an entrepreneur, and motivational speaker, actually says “You’re the average of the five people you spend most of your time with.”
Perhaps it isn’t quite that simple but there is something to this whole idea that the people you spend time with influence your level of success. The important thing is that it’s important to pay attention to who you spend time with and surround yourself with successful people as much as possible.
You know the inverse is true. When a kid falls in with the “wrong” or “bad” crowd at school, grades drop, and behavior changes for the worse. The opposite is true too. If your child has friends who are working hard and doing well in school, he or she will be more likely also to do well. One of the most rewarding things I ever heard in a Parent – Teacher Conference was that my daughter was taking her time to choose her friends and choosing wisely. That was powerfully affirming to me.
The same is true when it comes to our own lives and the areas we want to succeed in.
Let’s say your dream is to own a small restaurant on the main street and make a comfortable living cooking amazing locally sourced food for your community. Wouldn’t it make sense to make friends with other local business owners, chefs, and even boutique farmers in your area? How about having a group of friends across the county who are running the same type of restaurants?
Surrounding yourself with other people who are already successful in what you want to do allows you to tap into their vast experience and learn from the mistakes they have made instead of having to make those same mistakes yourself. These folks now serve as your mentors who will help you make progress faster. Something as simple as knowing who to talk to about your business license can save you days of time and aggravation.
Does everyone you surround yourself with have achieved that level of success? No, there is a tremendous amount of value in associating with people who are on the same journey as you are. Some of the most valuable things I have done have been to participate in Master Mind groups of people who are on a similar journey to my own. It allows you to learn from others, to exchange ideas, bounce ideas off of each other, and especially to encourage each other as you go through the tough times and celebrate your successes.
So, start by looking for like-minded people. Find some folks who are either working towards the same goal or who have already accomplished their goal and can play the role of a mentor or guide. Building this type of network will be an invaluable asset as you travel your road to success.